What is Eros + Alchemy?

You've read the books. You've tried the communication exercises. Maybe you've even been to therapy.

And yet... something's still missing.

Perhaps it feels like the spark has faded…

Or you started to feel like roommates, the sex isn’t as frequent or as passionate as it once was, the romance feels like it’s been lost, or you’re simply repeating the same arguments and you’re feeling a little exhausted despite the immense love you feel for one another.

Or, you’re single but you keep repeating the same patterns and attracting the same kind of partner who can’t fully meet you in the ways you deeply desire to be met. 

Here's what nobody tells you: You don't need more tips. You need a new operating system.

Most relationship advice gives you surface-level fixes - better date nights, active listening, love languages. Those are fine, but they're like rearranging furniture in a house with a cracked foundation.

EROS + Alchemy rebuilds the foundation.

Our Erotic Relational Operating System (EROS) gives you lifelong tools for creating the kind of healing, expansive, and consistently deepening love you desire. The kind where:

• You wake up and actually want to reach for your partner; not out of obligation, but genuine desire
• Conflicts become opportunities to understand each other more deeply instead of landmines that blow up your week
• You feel seen for who you actually are, not who you've been performing to be
• The sex gets better over time instead of fading into maintenance mode
• You trust yourself to navigate whatever comes, because you finally understand how relationships actually work
• You become the kind of person who attracts (and maintains) Epic Love, because you have the tools and resources to be in an ever-evolving, deepening and expansive partnership.

The EROS system helps couples and singles discover everything within them that's working against them - their shadow patterns - and transform those patterns into the foundation for Epic Love and personal evolution.

What this actually means for your life:

Most people confuse Chemistry + Compatibility - or worse, think chemistry is enough.

When you learn Chemistry, you discover how to walk into a room fully alive in your body - not performing, not managing anxiety, just present and magnetic. You'll understand why desire fades in long-term relationships (hint: it's not because you're with the wrong person) and how to reignite it. You'll learn the difference between attractiveness you manufacture and magnetism that emerges when you're fully embodied.

Compatibility means stopping the exhausting pattern of pulling in different directions; you value adventure, they value security. Or the pattern of choosing people who are exciting but unreliable, stable but boring, emotionally unavailable. The Holy Union Triangle gives you the map out of this - moving from the Drama Triangle (victim/rescuer/persecutor) into You, Me, and Us.

For couples: See your partner with fresh eyes again. Honor both your individual desires AND your shared vision without compromise.

For singles: Get crystal clear on what you're actually looking for and spot compatibility early instead of wasting months on chemistry with no foundation.

The shift: From performing to embodying. From "why don't they want what I want?" to conscious co-creation.

What this actually means for your life: 

This is where we go from understanding relationships to actually feeling them - and navigating the hard parts without destroying what you've built.

Connection is the skill nobody teaches. You know that moment when your partner is upset and you have no idea what to do? When you want closeness but something invisible keeps you at arm's length? When sex feels mechanical because you're in your head? That's lack of attunement - the ability to feel yourself and your partner simultaneously. To track your own nervous system while staying present to theirs. To know when to move closer and when to give space.

Conflict is inevitable. Suffering through it is optional. Most people avoid conflict until resentment explodes, or engage but spiral into the same fight repeatedly, or "resolve" it superficially while hurt lingers underneath. You'll learn why 95% of conflicts are resolvable and how to give feedback your partner can actually hear without defensiveness.

For couples: Repair ruptures in minutes instead of days. Reach for each other when hurt instead of withdrawing. Resolve fights about money, sex, or family in 20 minutes and feel closer afterward.

For singles: Open to real intimacy instead of settling for surface connection. Spot who's actually available versus just exciting. Stop choosing avoiders or drama-seekers.

The shift: From "I don't know how to reach them" to genuine attunement. From fearing conflict to using it as information and opportunity.

Who we are

JD  is a master of the psyche and has spent the better part of 30 years studying the human mind and psychology, hypnosis and consciousness. He has also studied tantra and relational mastery for over a decade with David Deida, John Wineland , and the Gottmans, among others. He's dedicated his life to understanding the mechanics of desire, polarity, and deep partnership.

Alyeria spent has spent the last 20 years exploring intimacy, power dynamics, and authentic relating in the BDSM/kink communities. She also studied long term relationship with Allison Armstrong, Gay and Katie Hendricks, and many other pioneers in conscious relationship.

In their own words:
We met at Burning Man in 2024 and knew instantly that this was the relationship we had both been waiting for. Our first year together was  the hardest either of us has ever traversed - navigating our own shadows, learning to attune to each other, practicing everything we teach.

And now we have one of the most solid, loving, potent relationships either of us has ever known.

Not because we got lucky. Not because we're special. Because we did the work. Because we have the operating system.

We love each other fiercely. And we're dedicated to helping you create truly once-in-a-lifetime, epic love.